DR NINA PIYUSH

HOW TO HANDLE CARE-TAKER HOW TO RESTRICT SCREEN TIME 5) Care-taker: Our life style has changed to a great extent. Most of us are having nuclear families. Mostly both the parents are working parents thereby struggling for time management. The distances & traffic adds to the struggle. Naturally we need a helper. Let's be very clear with the word 'care-taker'. For whom you have hired a helper is very very important. I saw children walking behind with the maid at malls/ restaurants/parks/cinema halls etc. I have seen maids running behind the child to brush the teeth/for bathing/to dress him/ to feed him while the mom is busy doing something in the kitchen/getting ready for office/waiting for a friend or guests/talking on phone etc.  I have seen maids accompanying the families even during their vacations....where is the family time??? Back to the point, 'care-taker' for whom? The answer is for MOMS. Moms need help to handle home & children effectively. ...

SELF-HELP SKILLS 4) Social skills: I saw children coping up well with formal education. Many were well accepted at regular schools. I found very few doing well socially. The reasons behind are; We have compartments in our mind set & doing well at school is the most important milestone compulsory for the child to achieve. We want to measure the child and for us the most accurate parameter is SCHOLASTIC PERFORMANCE.  We are very much worried and concerned about the academics and forget to inculcate the social skills. We push the child to do better in school and that makes the learning sessions difficult, boring and burdensome. We feel stressed out...we transfer the same to the child... this adds to the difficulties.....learning becomes a hell...the vicious cycle sets in..!!! To express the frustrations child acts rebelliously. Denial, temper tantrums, too much of self-talk, making monotonous sounds, inappropriate social behavior are the outcome.  We, as a par...

CONFIDENCE & SELF-IMAGE 2) Self-Image: As discussed in earlier blogs, our children are excellent copy cats. If used appropriately, ability to imitate can give magical results but the same can result in PARROTING . Our children keep on repeating what we/other people say or behave. How to deal with this...???? Let us see the root cause. Our children are visual learners and are good at receptive vocabulary. So they grasp things readily &  reproduce the same without understanding. Our children  have vague self-image & self-esteem. These are the reasons they keep on repeating the behaviors even though undesirable/disliked by others. They are happy in their own world, unaffected by how people will think about them. As most of the time our mind set is SOO, we get disturbed by the child's behavior. We feel ashamed & can't deal with the situation effectively. If we look at the situation from their perspective we will be able to deal with it in a much better...